Yesterday I had a session with a mother of a child who was referred to us for a consultation. The assessment results showed that her child has developmental delays in various skills.

Her first question was: what is the cause behind his difficulties? But after answering this question it was clear that the real hidden question behind the first one was: was it my fault? Did I do something wrong to my child? Was there a possibility to do something better to prevent these delays?

And believe it or not we hear these questions on a daily basis.

But today’s post isn’t about the probable reasons behind a child’s developmental delay. This post is about mom guilt.

Here’s what you need to know

When your child learns to walk, you don’t say to them “yeah, but remember how many times you slipped and tripped before you learned how to walk?”, or “Eww, look how shaky are your fist steps!”.

No! you are happy and supportive for them for developing their skills and improving!

When your child was born, s/he didn’t come with an owner’s manual or instruction booklet.

Of course, every mother and parent make mistakes in life. Of course, no parent knows how to solve every problem in the most effective way. No one is and never will be perfect.

As a mother, you always try to do your best. You learn a lot along the way, constantly adjusting your way of parenting. And isn’t that the point? To keep leaning and growing, apologize when you need to, and develop for your best and the best of your family. Right?  in fact, that’s the reason why you are still reading the post to this point. You care. You try your best. That’s what matters.

Let’s stop beating ourselves up for being human. If you are open to growth, you are doing great! And one last thing, don’t be afraid to ask anything! And never hesitate to ask for help if you need to! We are here to help you.